Escaping Zurnita’s box: An Indonesian immigrant’s journey to find communityJune 29, 2019 Category: Featured, Long, People
For Zurnita Madjidji living in “the box” felt crowded and foreign.
She shared it with her two children and now ex-husband. When he left for work, Madjidji was left to care for her young daughters, isolated. While everything around the box flowed with activity like a beehive, she felt alone in the crowd.
The box, as she called it, was her home, a one-bedroom apartment. The beehive was none other than New York City, Queens to be specific.
“When I came home, the loneliness came back,” she said.
Madjidji, originally from Medan, Indonesia, immigrated to the United States in December 1989. When her ex-husband asked her for her hand in marriage, she had a question for him: If she came with him to the U.S., would he allow her to attend college? He agreed.
It was on that promise that she followed him across the world and where her immigration story of building community, finding herself and breaking out of her box began.
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New connections didn’t come easy to Madjidji. Her only link to home came from a few friendships she was able to cultivate from women in New York City’s Indonesian consulate.
Soon, Madjidji outgrew the apartment and pleaded with her then-husband to find another place to live. He assented and she soon found herself in December 1991 moving to the Poconos in Pennsylvania. It was a stark contrast to New York City, with fresh air and rolling tree-dotted hills.
“But there was a loneliness I received there too,” Madjidji said of her new home.
Looking around, she quickly realized that none of her neighbors looked like her. Her friends from the consulate remained in the city. Madjidji’s crowded box had widened, but that only made her personal void more noticeable.
Then, a lifeline. While visiting the library, Madjidji found an advertisement for an English as a Second Language class at Northampton Community College. She enrolled and gained more than she set out for. She developed relationships with her classmates, shared immigration stories and even employed her new skill set to get to know her neighbors.
Madjidji went on to earn her associate’s degree at Northampton and completed a bachelor’s degree in sociology at East Stroudsburg University. She had accomplished her motivation for coming to the U.S.
But her step into the working world was not as successful.
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“You’re never good enough for what you do,” Madjidji said of her attitude during those years.
She first worked for Northampton Community College, starting in 2004, in the Continuing Education department, part-time as a secretary, until 2007. It was during that time she began experiencing problems in her marriage, which ultimately led to her divorce.
Madjidji left to work for a check-cashing company as a manager. This provided fulltime hours and benefits. She assisted customers and kept the company’s ledger for about two years. After, it lead to a six-year-stint as a support professional for people with disabilities.
By now, her children were reaching college-age and eager to leave the nest. They grew weary of life in the Poconos. Both graduated and made their way back to New York City for work and a new start.
While it left Madjidji alone, she was pleased. She thought back about the times she nagged them to do well in school or when she was involved with school activities. She remembered her car, emblazoned with the bumper sticker, “Proud Parent of an Honor Student.”
“I taught them the value of life, and then of education,” Madjidji said. “And also, to respect their neighbor.”
She considered following her children back to New York City, but instead completed four years at another company assisting those with disabilities.
While working at the disabilities company, Madjidji volunteered in South Philadelphia for Dompet Dhuafa, an Indonesian humanitarian and education nonprofit. She assisted with fundraising for natural disaster relief, taught beginner ESL and taught religious studies to children.
It was the first time she had the opportunity to help other immigrants reach their goals, and she enjoyed that thoroughly.
After volunteering for four years at Dompet Dhuafa, the organization experienced a leadership change and Madjidji was called upon to become the next executive director. She was one of the organization’s most dedicated volunteers.
She served for eight months, but resigned, not interested in the politics that came with the position.
That’s when she began taking courses with the Welcoming Center for New Pennsylvanians’ Immigrant Leadership Institute.
The students, all immigrants, are given the chance to participate in classes, workshops and trainings to build confidence and leadership skills. They can also design their own team projects.
Her first task: social isolation.
Madjidji and her teammates planned and hosted a forum called N-ever Alone: Immigrants, Social Isolation and the Slippery Role of Social Media, discussing the effects social networking has on immigrants. The event took place on June 20 at Pipeline Philly.
“One way or another, we might feel isolation,” she said. “I had the experience of feeling isolation as an immigrant, and so my team and I thought maybe we can help people overcome these barriers.”
The Immigrant Leadership Institute helped Madjidji begin her community life, she said.
“Be vigilant, be active, don’t just sit in the house,” Madjidji said as advice to new immigrants. “… ask people, go to the library and find some information for immigrants that can help you.”
Madjidji wants to write a book, chronicling her childhood in Indonesia and her struggles being married in a foreign country and raising children, she said. Tell the story of what life felt like living in a box.
“If you make a mistake, you are not your mistake,” Madjidji said.
“You can fall and get up and dust yourself and walk again. I know so many people who fall and then they think they cannot do anything. They are hurt so badly and then they begin to believe what people tell about them, what people will say about them.”
“But I refuse to do that,” she said.